Reimagining Difference

  Neurodivergence and Perfectionism: How to Let Go of Overthinking Raise your hand if you’ve ever spent way too much time overthinking something, convinced that it  has to be perfect  before you can call it done. Same. For neurodivergent folks, perfectionism can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it pushes us to do amazing work; on the other, it can leave us stuck in a cycle of second-guessing and burnout. But here’s the truth: perfection is a myth. And letting go of that overthinking spiral? It’s not just freeing—it’s essential. Let’s unpack why neurodivergent people often struggle with perfectionism and how we can start embracing imperfection instead. Why Perfectionism Hits Neurodivergent People So Hard Perfectionism isn’t just about wanting things to be “just right.” For many neurodivergent folks, it’s a response to a lifetime of being misunderstood or judged. We’ve learned that being “perfect” is a way to avoid criticism, rejection, or worse—feeling like we don’t b...

  How to Self-Advocate as a Neurodivergent Person Let’s talk about self-advocacy. For neurodivergent people, this can feel like a tricky balancing act—standing up for what you need while navigating a world that might not always “get it.” Whether it’s at work, in school, or even with friends and family, self-advocacy can feel exhausting, but it’s also  so important . Here’s the good news: self-advocacy doesn’t have to be about being loud or forceful. It’s about knowing yourself, understanding your needs, and communicating them in ways that feel authentic to you. Let’s dive into how to make this process work for  you. Why Is Self-Advocacy So Hard? First, let’s acknowledge something: advocating for yourself isn’t easy, especially if you’ve spent a lot of time masking or being dismissed in the past. You might worry about being “too demanding” or fear being misunderstood. Maybe you’ve even internalized the idea that you should just “deal with it” instead of asking for accommod...

  How to Know If You’re Genuinely Not Ready — or Just Holding Back Introduction Sometimes, we pause on a big decision like coaching because we aren’t ready. Other times, we pause because something in us is afraid of what readiness might require. Knowing the difference can save us months (or years) of wondering. This article helps you gently sort through the difference without judgment, pressure, or shame. Section 1: Real Reasons for Pausing (And Why They’re Valid) There are very real reasons you might not be ready to start coaching: You’re navigating a demanding season Your finances are uncertain You’re unsure whether coaching is the right modality for your needs You want to try free resources first These are all healthy, self-aware reasons to pause. Self-Reflection Prompt: Is this a matter of misalignment, or is this a season of preparation? Section 2: The Difference Between "Not Ready" and Protective Avoidance We all avoid things that feel vulnerabl...

  Is Coaching For Me? There’s something powerful about the moment you ask yourself that question. “Is coaching for me?” It usually shows up when you know that something has to shift, but you might not yet know what that shift needs to look like. Sometimes it’s a quiet longing for change. Sometimes it feels like standing at a cliff edge with your thoughts echoing louder than your confidence. And sometimes, you’ve tried everything else, and coaching feels like a last resort... or a whispered hope. First things first: coaching isn’t therapy . It isn’t about diagnosing or unpacking past trauma (though we honor how those experiences show up in the now). Coaching is future-focused. It asks, "Where do you want to go?" and then helps you gently build the map, pack the bag, and start walking. But that doesn't mean it's only for people who feel "together." In fact, coaching is often most useful when you're not quite sure what next steps to take, or when you'v...

  🌱 When Is the Right Time for Momentum Coaching? The truth is, there’s no perfect time to begin something new. Most of us are juggling too many responsibilities, trying to manage energy dips, executive functioning challenges, sensory needs, or the internal monologue that questions whether we’re really ready at all. But there is a right-fit time — and it’s less about outer circumstances and more about whether you’re able to create the conditions that allow growth to take root. 🧭 Readiness Isn’t About Perfection — It’s About Capacity Let’s be honest: coaching isn’t just a conversation. It’s a commitment to clarity, focus, and aligned action — even if those actions are tiny or nonlinear. If you’re thinking about working with a coach, it helps to reflect on whether you currently have: The emotional bandwidth to explore stuck points, patterns, and possibilities The logistical space in your schedule to meet regularly and take small, intentional steps The psychologic...

  Managing Sensory Overload in a Busy World You know that feeling when the world just seems  too much ? The lights are too bright, the noises too loud, and even the texture of your own clothes feels like it’s plotting against you. Yep, that’s sensory overload, and if you’re neurodivergent, it’s probably no stranger to you. Sensory overload can hit hard, and it doesn’t always come with a warning. One minute you’re fine, and the next, you’re ready to crawl into a dark, quiet cave until the chaos subsides. It’s not fun, but with a few tools and strategies, you can manage sensory overload and create more space for peace, even in a busy world. What Is Sensory Overload? Sensory overload happens when your brain gets more input than it can process at once. Think of it like too many tabs open on your browser—everything slows down, crashes, or just refuses to work. For neurodivergent folks, this can be triggered by: Noisy environments  (think crowded cafes or family gatherings). Br...