Reimagining Difference

   Self-Care for Neurodivergent People: More Than Just a Buzzword Let’s talk about self-care. It’s everywhere these days—plastered on social media with pictures of bubble baths and face masks. And while those things are great (who doesn’t love a good bath?), self-care for neurodivergent people often looks a little different. It’s not just a luxury or an indulgence—it’s a survival tool. For us, self-care isn’t about what’s trendy; it’s about what helps us recharge, regulate, and show up as our best selves. Let’s break down what self-care can look like when you’re neurodivergent and how to make it work for  you . Why Self-Care Matters So Much for Neurodivergent Folks The world can feel overwhelming—loud noises, bright lights, constant expectations, and an endless stream of responsibilities. When you add sensory sensitivities, executive dysfunction, or social exhaustion into the mix, it’s clear why self-care is essential. It’s not just about feeling good; it’s about  fe...

  Neurodivergence and Perfectionism: How to Let Go of Overthinking Raise your hand if you’ve ever spent way too much time overthinking something, convinced that it  has to be perfect  before you can call it done. Same. For neurodivergent folks, perfectionism can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it pushes us to do amazing work; on the other, it can leave us stuck in a cycle of second-guessing and burnout. But here’s the truth: perfection is a myth. And letting go of that overthinking spiral? It’s not just freeing—it’s essential. Let’s unpack why neurodivergent people often struggle with perfectionism and how we can start embracing imperfection instead. Why Perfectionism Hits Neurodivergent People So Hard Perfectionism isn’t just about wanting things to be “just right.” For many neurodivergent folks, it’s a response to a lifetime of being misunderstood or judged. We’ve learned that being “perfect” is a way to avoid criticism, rejection, or worse—feeling like we don’t b...

  How to Self-Advocate as a Neurodivergent Person Let’s talk about self-advocacy. For neurodivergent people, this can feel like a tricky balancing act—standing up for what you need while navigating a world that might not always “get it.” Whether it’s at work, in school, or even with friends and family, self-advocacy can feel exhausting, but it’s also  so important . Here’s the good news: self-advocacy doesn’t have to be about being loud or forceful. It’s about knowing yourself, understanding your needs, and communicating them in ways that feel authentic to you. Let’s dive into how to make this process work for  you. Why Is Self-Advocacy So Hard? First, let’s acknowledge something: advocating for yourself isn’t easy, especially if you’ve spent a lot of time masking or being dismissed in the past. You might worry about being “too demanding” or fear being misunderstood. Maybe you’ve even internalized the idea that you should just “deal with it” instead of asking for accommod...

  How to Know If You’re Genuinely Not Ready — or Just Holding Back Introduction Sometimes, we pause on a big decision like coaching because we aren’t ready. Other times, we pause because something in us is afraid of what readiness might require. Knowing the difference can save us months (or years) of wondering. This article helps you gently sort through the difference without judgment, pressure, or shame. Section 1: Real Reasons for Pausing (And Why They’re Valid) There are very real reasons you might not be ready to start coaching: You’re navigating a demanding season Your finances are uncertain You’re unsure whether coaching is the right modality for your needs You want to try free resources first These are all healthy, self-aware reasons to pause. Self-Reflection Prompt: Is this a matter of misalignment, or is this a season of preparation? Section 2: The Difference Between "Not Ready" and Protective Avoidance We all avoid things that feel vulnerabl...

  Is Coaching For Me? There’s something powerful about the moment you ask yourself that question. “Is coaching for me?” It usually shows up when you know that something has to shift, but you might not yet know what that shift needs to look like. Sometimes it’s a quiet longing for change. Sometimes it feels like standing at a cliff edge with your thoughts echoing louder than your confidence. And sometimes, you’ve tried everything else, and coaching feels like a last resort... or a whispered hope. First things first: coaching isn’t therapy . It isn’t about diagnosing or unpacking past trauma (though we honor how those experiences show up in the now). Coaching is future-focused. It asks, "Where do you want to go?" and then helps you gently build the map, pack the bag, and start walking. But that doesn't mean it's only for people who feel "together." In fact, coaching is often most useful when you're not quite sure what next steps to take, or when you'v...